It’s an adult dating site that has the largest membership in the casual dating sector. The site’s focus is on providing a dating platform for sexual encounters or hookups for straight heterosexuals, gays, swingers, cougars, and those seeking friends with benefits relationship. The site has an array of premium features as covered in detail in the review above. The forums also give the site a community feel for like-minded and, of course, open-minded people

Most females will be inundated with messages, however, due to the gender imbalance, guys will have to make an extra effort. Firstly, by completing an Adultfriendfinder profile that stands out by the crowd. Secondly, by choosing appropriate photographs and, lastly, by sending appealing messages that spark curiosity. A ‘hi there I like your boobs’ will not cut it!

Women will generally like flirty messages but not crude; an element of cheekiness or humor whilst being respectful. We give our tips on producing an impressive profile, advice on messaging that maximizes chances of success and choosing the best pics for an Adultfriendfinder profile. It’s important for guys to try for dates with a number of women and not just become focused on one to give the best chance of a hookup.

One of the best ways of establishing credibility and in turn getting hookups is by contributing to the forum. Write a few interesting posts and that will help gain trust and, in turn, more hookups.

It’s certainly legit but, as with other sites, mainstream and casual alike, you will get members trying to scam others. AFF tried to weed out the likes of escorts offering services for money but people can be slippery and devious. So, as with other sites, use common sense. In order to be able to message other members, you need to pay for a subscription so that very fact deters a lot of scammers.

In terms of getting a hookup then the membership gender imbalance means guys have to work harder and stand out, especially if they are not particularly good looking or lack an athletic build. Women do go for charm and charisma as well as looks, so the sheer numbers on the site mean the potential is there for subscribers to get what they are looking for.

The best advice is to either try it for free with the limited services or try it for a month and follow the tips in our article on Adultfriendfinder profiles, messaging, and profile pictures.

The site itself isn’t fake and has been established and grown in popularity over the years. But undoubtedly some profiles do slip through checks and are fake. Members are encouraged to report through the abuse form any scammer or seemingly fake profile. The site is long-established and has a vast membership. These two factors are the best benchmarks to use to identify a trustworthy and genuine site and AFF passes these tests with flying colors. Were it not the case, members would vote with their feet but the site remains consistently popular and well-used over the years. For the skeptical, the best option is to sign-up for free and browse and test the site.

It’s the pick of the casual dating sites out there is in terms of having the genuine membership numbers for subscribers to achieve dates or hookups. Other sites might have a slicker platform or more alluring pictures but, for guys especially, a casual dating site needs a lot of members in order to get a local date. That’s because there is a ratio of about 8 guys to 1 female for most casual dating sites.

One of the other appeals of AdultFriendFinder is that it has a lot of features as above in the features section of the review. It’s very interactive with its numerous forums on every different topic on sex and relationships imaginable. So you can get value from your membership whilst searching for an appealing hookup partner. Guys will certainly have to work harder than women to impress and move to the next stage. Women can just wait and watch their in-box fill up and select accordingly.

It’s not that AdultFriendFinder is the only option in the mass of hookup sites competing for subscribers, but it is the best for offering the potential for securing casual dates. Just as Match has become the leader in the mainstream dating sector, then Adultfriendfinder has done likewise in the hookup category.

It’s really only worth looking elsewhere if you are looking for a very specific niche such as a cougar, swinger, sugar daddy, or affair site. For those looking for the first two (cougars and swinger) then adult friend finder is a good choice. For affairs we would suggest a more dedicated site such as Ashley Madison as a lot of the women on adult friend finder will not want to meet married men and vice versa, it’s just not marketed as an affairs site.

For Sugar babes or sugar daddy’s then sites such as sugardaddyforme are a better option as inevitably there is some kind of material gift or financial transaction that takes place. Again, that’s not the purpose of Adultfriendfinder.

The answer is yes with common sense and if safety measures are applied. The four golden rules apply to every dating site, not just Adultfriendfinder and they are:-

i) Always meet in a public place until you feel safe and secure with someone. If someone is too pushy about meeting privately for a first meeting then just avoid.
ii) Tell a friend where you are going.
iii) Leave a date with polite excuses if you feel uncomfortable
iv If something seems too good to be true then, almost certainly, it is.

There are also mobile apps that allow you to signal to friends or family you feel you are in an unsafe situation.

Some members on Adultfriendfinder are verified and all members have to declare the following they have never been convicted of a felony and do not need to register as a sex offender in any location.

Of course, like most sites, these declarations aren’t checked and verified except when a member chooses to self-verify. So the simplest way of staying safe is using good judgment and common sense.

When signing up email addresses are verified. The administrators can then potentially use the email IP address when necessary to trace an individual in collaboration with the internet service provider. The site also has a report abuse form for members to highlight scammers or other users who have sent offensive messages. The site bans transgressors permanently.

The site takes the safety of its members seriously and even warns about giving personal details before trusting a recipient within the messaging box field.

It’s optional. The site does encourage verification and those members that do verify, receive points that enable them to access some additional features.

i) Upload a picture of yourself that includes your username shown in the photo.
ii) Confirm your identification to get bonus points to use on premium site features.
iii) Do this by sending in your name, gender, d.o.b. and address with an uploaded copy of a current valid passport, driving license, or other photo ID that has been issued by the Government.

It’s optional. The site does encourage verification and those members that do verify, receive points that enable them to access some additional features.

i) Upload a picture of yourself that includes your username shown in the photo.
ii) Confirm your identification to get bonus points to use on premium site features.
iii) Do this by sending in your name, gender, d.o.b. and address with an uploaded copy of a current valid passport, driving license, or other photo ID that has been issued by the Government.

The site works well but with caveats. It’s a great option for women looking for casual dates as you will be inundated with messages and spoilt for choice. It’s also popular with swingers looking for other couples. Good looking guys with appealing personalities will not struggle to find hookups either. It also works well for guys who are for older women as there are a lot of cougars on the site.

The site is also used for gay hook-ups as well but some of the other more specific gay casual dating sites are better options. In fact, the same company that owns Adult Friend Finder also runs casual gay dating sites such as MenNation and Outpersonals.

For regular guys looking for casual dates with women of the same age then it does work but men will need to work harder to get hookups due to the gender imbalance which is at least 8 to 1 in favor of women.

Some people want instant hook-ups but user reviews such as this one from Anita https://www.quora.com/How-real-is-Adult-Friend-Finder
suggest that making friendships and messaging a few times to build a rapport is the best approach.

Read our guide full of useful tips on how to make the best profile and choose the best photos to attract women on Adultfriendfinder. So, yes, you can get very good results from adult friend finder but the fairer sex will find it easier.

It’s worth it but guys seeking hookups need to use all the tips on DatingSiteReviews to succeed well.  As a general rule, guys need to be proactive and creative in their messaging.  Message a few women as the gender imbalance on the site, like all casual dating sites, means guys are facing competition to secure dates.  For those unsure then the free option or trying the site for the cost of a month is the best option.

There are a few free features. As with most sites, you can register without cost and browse members with the search filters. You can also interact on the various forum groups and a few videos are made available to non-paying members. In the main though, the options and features are very limited. You won’t be able to message other members for example or use most of the premium features. In short, the free option is just a good way of testing the site to see if you want to subscribe or now. Here is the free sign-up link

Adult Friend Finder is active in banning those abusing its terms and conditions including escorts using the site for business. There seem to be a few inactive profiles that have slipped through the net but most have been inactive for a long time. These days there are plenty of sites for escorts to look for business without using a casual dating site but undoubtedly a few still try.

There are things to consider. For example, you never know, a neighbor or work colleague might also join.  Visitors could also screenshot them and use them malevolently. So do think carefully about your portfolio pictures for your adult friend finder profile.  Don’t upload anything in a compulsive or even drunken moment that would embarrass you at a later stage.

That said, image owners who see their picture elsewhere can demand the site removes the picture otherwise they will be liable.  They can also contact the person or person who took and used/abused the image and send a cease and desist letter, request compensation, and, ultimately if things are not resolved satisfactorily file a copyright infringement lawsuit.  The best option though is to use pictures you are happy for other users to see.

You do have the option to add pictures on your profile that don’t show your face. That’s a reasonable approach but a facial picture does enhance your chances of a hookup as it highlights that you are unlikely to be a scammer.  If the picture is on the intimate side then you can use adult friend finder’s edit facility to delete part or all of your face or even just show part of your face such as a smile that doesn’t readily identify you.

Adultfriendfinder gives some good practical examples.

Profiles without any pictures at all are best avoided as how do you know if the text can be believed? The faceless prince from Ghana who needs your bank account details to enable him to access his newly inherited wealth and share a bit with you is best avoided! Women generally aren’t won over by dick pics and a smiling face is more likely to impress.

It’s quite understandable if you don’t want to show your full face so some delicate cropping works well and here’s a couple of examples that work well. A cropped picture that shows a smile and an athletic or curvaceous body can still be appealing. We wouldn’t recommend the COVID-19 masks though as a means of being discreet.

Remember, a profile with a picture is ten times more likely to get a response than one without.

It’s a good idea to add a portfolio of pictures to your profile. As well as those that show your physical attractiveness, then one or two pictures showing hobbies activity can work well.

Adult friend finder provides some good tips and example pictures that demonstrate examples of a good full-face profile picture and, also, a cropped one that hides identity but still comes across as appealing.

There are some but these aren’t profiles initiated by the site but by scammers who are prevalent on every dating site. Emails do have to be verified but as everyone knows scammers can create throwaway emails. Adult Friend Finder also declares quite openly on their site that not all the photos they use are members. This is different to fake scammer profiles in the same sense that Walmart might, quite legitimately, use a model to represent a shopper in some marketing material.

The scammers are usually easily identifiable as often they claim to be American, Canadian, or British but their style of writing indicates that English is very much their second language. The site tries hard to eradicate the rogue profiles and actively encourage members to report them or other abuses through their messaging system. So if you see fake/inappropriate accounts or photos make sure you report it. There is a ‘report member’ abuse option and adult friend finder state that “We are committed to quickly resolving problems as they occur.”

There are too many nasty scams to list here (applicable to all dating sites) but, in general, anything that involves the request of money should be reported in the ‘report abuse’ form that the Adultfriendfinder highlights very clearly.

USA members can contact the parent company of Adultfriendfinder.com here:
Corporate Head Office
Various, Inc.
910 E. Hamilton Ave., Sixth Floor,
Campbell, CA 95008, USA
888-575-8383
(408) 702 1040 (tel)
(650) 324-9379 (fax)

International members can also use this address:-

International Office
FriendFinder Processing, Inc.
P.O. Box 1058
Suite 202
Amory Building
Victoria Road
Basseterre
St. Kitts LB

There is also an on-site email and feedback form and, additionally, a detailed help section that covers most issues members may encounter. Gold Member subscribers have access to a customer service telephone helpline.

To message a member for a live chat:-
i) Type in the username of the person you wish to chat with and click on the button labeled “Page” button.
ii) After the messaging box appears, just type your initial greeting or message and press “Send”.
iii) All it takes now is for the recipient to accept your message then a Private Chat Room opens.
iv) You will now be connected with each other and can chat in privacy.
 
To see Your Messages:-
i) When a member contacts you, a box titled New Messages, appears detailing the member’s user name . That along with the message will be visible on the right side of the platform screen.
ii) To join the chat all you need to do is click on the member’s username and you’ll see the “Join” button. Click on this.
iii) After you accept the message, a Private Chat Room opens and you are sorted.
iv) You are now all set up to chat with your friend or potential date.
 
To send and receive messages from and to offline members:-
i) Log-in and find the profile you wish to message
ii) On the selected profile page scroll down to the mid-page area to the messaging form that reads “send user an email”
iii) In the form above the email messaging box, you can also select “add to hotlist”, “flirt”, “Buy Them a Gift Certificate”, “Send an Email”, “add to My Network” and “Send Voice Message”.
iv) Select “Send an Email”, write your message and click “send the above message”. You can also select extra options such as including a copy of your profile, getting an email read receipt and saving a copy of the message to be sent.

Yes, there is an AdultFriendFinder app for iPhones and all android smartphones. It allows you to find local members, receive and send messages, receive notifications, and upload plenty of photos for your profile. Some users love to have all the features of the desk-top platform and this is also available in the mobile-optimized format on smartphones.

Just note that te adult friend finder app is considered a bit too hot for Google Play store so you’ll need to download it directly from the AFF site. When downloading on android go to settings > security and then select the field ‘unknown sources.’ This process enables you to proceed with the installation and overcomes the default issue that prevents the downloading of apps that are not on Google.

Just choose the option to upload files from your computer or smartphone. You can also drag and drop pictures. The site provides editing tools so you can crop, adjust the brightness, and rotate. You can even draw on your face if you are concerned about privacy. AFF also allows you to upload videos in the same way.

It’s important to download a good quality photo in order to maximize the prospects of getting replies and interest from other members. A profile with photos generally gets ten times more interest than one without. That makes sense as most people do need to have some visual image to spark their interest. Adult friend finder used to offer a scanning service for a nominal fee, however, the link for this service doesn’t lead to details so it appears this is no longer offered.

The search box is at the top of the page and easily navigated. You can use all sorts of weird and wonderful search filters. As you would expect with a casual site like AFF, a lot of the search filters relate to physical features.

Yes, they can, however, they need to purchase an add-on that allows free members to reply. Non-subscribing members can receive messages and browse the membership base, but they have to join to reply unless a premium member has paid for the feature that provides for a reply from standard members.

You can read some of the blogs and erotic stories on the site but to access browsing members you do have to sign-up. If you sign-up for a free standard membership, you can partially view profiles. To be able to view other members’ full details, such as the full portfolio of photos, then a Gold Membership is needed. There is a small exception to this, however; some standard members who have a profile that is very popular do get more viewing privileges. This is still quite limited though.

When you sign-up and subscribe the default for subscriptions is auto-renew. This means you will be charged again when your subscription expires. If this isn’t something you want then make sure you switch off auto-renewal. You can do this straight away after subscribing so you don’t forget and, of course, it won’t impact on the duration you have already paid for.

If you don’t want auto-renew then:-

i) After log-in at the top of the members, home page click on ‘My Account’
ii) Select ‘Billing History and Credit Card info’
iii) You will see ‘Product Status’ shown as “On” this means auto-renew is on.
iv) Click the off option for ‘Product Status’ and auto-renewal has now been switched off.

Click on my account and then select email preferences. You can then choose from the variety of AdultFriendFinder email subscription choices and turn off all of them or some of them including Cupid Reports.

With the unexpected and sad consequences of the outbreak of COVID-19 and lockdown then physical meetings arising from all dating sites are of course riskier. More so, for casual dating sites such as AdultFriendFinder where the potential for intimate hookups with multiple partners are part of their pitch. So it t makes sense to use the time to establish online relationships with other members and look forward to the time when you can meet safely in person.

In the meantime, you can use the video and cam chat facilities. A lot of AFF members do join for these features on the site and especially the interaction on the forums. Using the multiple forums that cover pretty much every sex and relationship topic is one way to build up a trustworthy image on the site and help you get hookups once things begin to normalize again. One of the positives about the site is that it is very interactive and encourages online participation in forums.

AdultFriendFinder has been quite innovative during the outbreak of Coronavirus and even offers an online wedding video and streaming service. Weddings are not readily associated with the site and we don’t see AFF competing with eharmony anytime soon in the serious relationship leading to marriage market!